Your Manager. Boss or Friend? Part 2

My opinion in this matter is clear. Yes, I prefer to have both a Professional and a Personal friendship with my colleagues.
Are you a person who think that relationships that are personal only can produce disappointment in the long run?

Motivation - Akey to success

I’ve had a lot of discussions around this topic after my previous post, especially with peers and managers in the IT business. The most common comment has been: “Of course you cannot be friend with an employee” That is easy to say but when I then asked the question Why? right back, the answer didn’t come out clear at all. I can see a trend out there today that the people who enjoy their work most also tend to have a great manager/employee relationship. To be able to balance the Line between Professional and Personal Friendship has become a new important skill set.

In today’s busy world, work wise, it is hard to separate work from private life. You spend so much of your time at work, hopefully because your work is enjoyable and a pride to you. To have a successful boss/friend relationships the players have to know when to turn off the corporate switch. To know where to draw the line will then become a key. Work is personal, and when you have a problem at work you want to ask a friend for advise. And if he/she is your boss…and friend, wouldn’t that be perfect or at least a convenient scenario?

Remember from my last post:

“Pros: You trust a friend, you like to spend time with friends, you want to develop things with a friend, you can tell a friend what you really think, most of the time you are loyal to a friend, a friend needs you. You are depended on a friend. You will miss a friend. So, would you care for the same skill set in a leaders profile?
Cons: Blank for now. Help me out here…please…”

Some people say you can’t be friends with your boss without an unequal balance of power. Although a boss have greater responsibility, each person in your organization handles a critical function to that company. If not, that position would quickly have been wiped from the org. chart. Authority or not, each position is essential. Power comes in how you handle yourself in whatever role you are given.
Let’s be honest. Wouldn’t you rather work with a person that you have a great relation with than with a person you either have to obey as a slave or the opposite, treat that person like a slave? Yes yes, a slave is a strong word in this matter, I know, but it puts you in the mindset at least to affect you on this topic…ask yourself:

-Do you have a good relationship with your manager today? Good or bad?
-Do you have a good relationship with your employee today? Good or bad?

I met a guy yesterday that did not even know who his boss was. Well, you obviously have that as well… I’m not sliding in to another topic here. Just had to mention it…Hey -Become a friend with your colleague.
Stay tuned!

Your Manager. Boss or Friend?

Hello and welcome to 2014!

Well, Boss or Friend. Boss or leader. What would you prefer?

Don’t you always wanna be among friends? Of course, however there is no straight answer to the question if your Manager should be a Friend or a Boss. I Think your manager should be your friend although she/he has to act as a professional leader. With that said there is also a certain balance that has to be in place to make it work. Trust and relation are for sure the most important dress for success. Let’s start with some pros and cons to have a coach, manager or a leader who is also your friend:

Motivation - InnovationPros: You trust a friend, you like to spend time with friends, you want to develop things with a friend, you can tell a friend what you really think, most of the time you are loyal to a friend, a friend needs you. You are depended on a friend. You will miss a friend. So, would you care for the same skill set in a leader profile?

Cons: Blank for now. Help me out here…please…

The last 20 years things have changed rapidly when it comes to management and leadership. Before the Boss was untouchable, a person you did not know personally and that was acceptable. Today your recuirements to work with a human beeing is there to stay, yes I hear you…”business is business bla bla bla”. Seriously, you spend so much time at work and the person you have as a friend can become a problem for you as a manager.

Remember, business is all about relationship today. Trust and relation, motivation.
If you do not Think so, Wake up! If you do not have a good relation with your manager, quit!

I’m actually talking about the differences between a Boss and a Leader…I’ll be back with Cons on this topic in a while…stay tuned:-). Meanwhile…do you recognize your manager in the Picture below?


Motivation - boss vs leader

A perfect Manager!

If You have a manager that doesn’t inspire you or has no clue on what really motivates you, QUIT your job please!! If you snooze YOU lose, not your manager. My advise: Please choose a Manager and Company to work with. Not a Company to work for!

The Manager who has the skill set to make you motivated through your career rocks! The perfect manager sees you, not the number you make for the Company. If your manager sees you, you will be motivated and can focus on the tasks that really motivates you. You want to master something. You want to achieve things together with your manager.

Manager…the old school makes you cry and the new school make you increase your self estime and you will be recognized.

Old school? Carrot and sticks mentality

The old school fact is that your manager was a person that you had to serve and obey. Does carrot and sticks mentality comes up in your mind? If you use a carrot-and-stick method to make someone do something, you both offer rewards and threaten punishments. This method really sucks. A carrot is also punishment no matter what you call it. In the Navy it’s called “A physical reward” when you have to make 50 push ups. That’s “not” punishment.


Incentive programs can be effective, but only if they incorporate the kind of recognition employees really want.

Check out Robert on his blog. This is something!

My advise: Please choose a Manager and Company to work with. Not a Company to work for!


Employee brought another peer into our company

Today one of my colleagues pointed out another top player in the IT Infrastructure business that led to a hire. How can you motivate a colleague to bring in another guy. With incentives? No, not if you ask me. Many companies try to buy referals from their employees. It does not work like that. You have to create a Culture and a Company where everybody wants to work. If you create that kind of climate players will bring other players to your team. People has to believe in the Company Culture so much that they even try to convince other peers to work for the same Company as they do. Management is one strong success factor to make it happen…

I’ll explain more in detail under “Company Culture”

Colleagues that rock

Today I had a great experience. One of my colleagues just made a thing happen. As a manager this is the best gift ever. He just asked to take over the responsibility of purchasing hardware for our Company and there it was, a list of all servers, laptops, desktops and mobiles AND to whom they belong. That,s a list worth paying for. He got a new phone. Thanks!


Today all our Consultants came to HQ having one of the best blog seminars you can imagine. Brit Stakston and Nikke Lindqvist came by. A few weeks ago we decided to increase our presence on the market. Now 100% of the players in the team are up and running with at least one blog each. High motivation and a lot of entusiasm came out from that meeting!